By Liv Bjorgum
Don’t apologize. Not for taking up space, making a basket during a competitive game of basketball, or getting someone out in dodgeball. Not for making a “bad throw” when you’re playing frisbee, or for winning a game of flag football.
Society has inflicted a feeling of remorse on females when they do something, anything. This is wrong. Some of the most powerful women I know are powerful because they don’t waste their time saying sorry. I find myself saying sorry when someone else bumps into me in the hallway. I see my friends apologizing for asking questions during class, or for making their opinions heard. None of us are at fault. Yet there seems to be a certain expectation that women will make themselves the guilty party. We, as girls, were not made to be nice. We were made to make a change.
A lot of the girls in my P.E. class apologize for getting someone out in a game. But that's the whole purpose of it, isn't it? The objective of a game is to win, so don't apologize for taking a step towards that goal. Don’t waste any time apologizing for nothing; you should be spending your time playing the game. Plus, not apologizing for your actions will make you more confident, and make you seem more powerful and sure of yourself.
Saying sorry does not make us polite. In fact, it often becomes a replacement for saying other, more important things. “Sorry” makes our sentences small and meaningless. By overusing that one simple word, it is difficult to communicate any true meaning when you really mean it. Try counting how many times you say “sorry” in a day, and watch your words. Before you say “sorry”, think about other things you could say to better get your message across, or realize that there’s no reason to say it at all. Chances are you’ll provoke change as well. Once the women around you notice you’ve stopped apologizing, they may too. Girls learn from other girls and need to support each other. So, next time you kick the winning goal at the soccer tournament, don’t apologize to the other team. Say, “good game” and go eat some ice cream. You’re a winner, after all.